I am not a spokesman for all French men, but I am willing to share details about my personal style. I do differentiate between sex and lovemaking. Sometimes sex is sex and other times, sex is part of making love. To be clear, whether or not I am f***ing or making love is decided by my lover, not by me. She makes that call. Your question is about making love, so I will keep my focus there.
Making love to a woman starts long before we are in the same room. French men are big on romance and expressions of love. We bring flowers or a favorite dessert to their place of work for no reason other than to let our lover know that we were thinking of them. If you have been in the streets of France, you can see these expressions of love everywhere.
Contrary to what many men believe, pounding into a woman like a mechanical rabbit is not impressive. There are many other moves to lovemaking; I like to be pro-active by making my partner feel comfortable prior to our encounter. The typical American romantic dinner is nice, but not mandatory. Sometimes a thoughtful gesture is more effective to touch a woman’s heart than going to a restaurant every time. Preliminaries are very important. I would never bother taking shortcuts. Lovemaking is like a beautiful ballroom dance; every step is as important as the last.
It is a monumental mistake for a man to think his style is universal and would make every woman happy. Women are unique; a smart lover will do his homework. He will put in the effort to get to know a woman and find out what turns her on. A man who uses the same moves on all of his lovers should never expect the same results. Lovemaking is about touching, kissing, and slowly building up to penetration. I enjoy taking control of everything prior to and after lovemaking. Making love does not stop after orgasms and a man should avoid leaving the bed quickly or rolling over and falling asleep.
“Faire l’amour est un plaisir, un appetit, un besoin, un amusement, et non pas un devoir.”
“Making love is a pleasure, an appetite, a need, it is joy, not a duty.”
Love Like the French: A Guide to Better Romance and Relationships by Guy Blaise is available from Amazon and Bookshop.