TikTok is one of the fastest growing social media apps, with over two billion downloads thanks to viral videos from top TikTok influencers. Who can resist the lure of TikTok dances, spoof videos, cute animals, cars, music, travel destinations and more? There is truly something for everyone.
But that isn’t all TikTok can do. The popular social media app is jam-packed with insightful anecdotes about the all-important topics of love, sex, polyamory, mental health, relationships and empowerment. Influencers speaking to these sensitive topics help users navigate the emotional world around them. Especially with so many people lacking in sex education in school, TikTok can help fill that void.
However, there are so many TikTok videos and pages to view, how can you possibly find the best ones to learn about sexuality, relationships or making connections with fellow humans? Don’t worry—I did all of the rabbit hole digging for you and compiled a list of some really great free wisdom à la TikTok influencers. In no particular order, here are ten TikTok influencers on sex and relationships for your enjoyment and exploration…
Flores is a trauma-informed relationship coach and heartbreak expert. She help empaths heal patterns and learn to experience authentic love by nurturing self awareness and empowering their hearts. Flores’ page is full of videos about navigating the difficult parts of relationships, tantra tips, and exercises to build connection in your relationship. You can also find her on Instagram where she shares plenty of self love reminders to help you stay aligned with your worth.
Discussing all things LGBTQ+, Breanne Williamson is the co-host of I Can Explain Podcast, a weekly queer podcast where her and co-host Sean answer all the questions that you are too afraid to ask (nothing is off limits!). Williamson helps people navigate some of the intricacies and experiences of queer life. From coming out, supportive stories, funny anecdotes to her “Gay Girl Tips”, her page is chock full of queer life fun and tips. You can also follow her on Instagram, and her extensive YouTube channel.
If you’re tired of trying to figure out relationships on your own, Matthew Hussey might have just the TikTok account you need right now. Through his New York Times bestselling book, Get the Guy: Learn Secrets of the Male Mind to Find the Man You Want and the Love You Deserve, Hussey is said to have a proven approach that inspires women to find love. Hussey’s TikTok videos are full of honest, insightful and practical advice for modern dating. Hussey believes that everyone deserves to feel confident and in control of their own happiness and his videos speak to that. And of course, you can find him on Instagram as well!
Want to feel more deeply connected and get some tips on tantra? This TikTok account is overflowing with quick ideas and exercises to act out with your loved one. Gordon covers everything from how to attract a soul mate to tantric sex to how to get over a breakup, and even offers a tutorial on shibari bondage, along with many other topics. Jennelle Gordon is an inspiration for people as a holistic healer, intimacy coach, public speaker, and educator. Gordon studied tantra and yoga extensively with masters in Thailand after overcoming a traumatic past, which helps inform her TikTok videos. Even if you aren’t ready to practice some of these techniques, you’ll find her journey and wisdom inspiring.
This is the polyamory TikTok page you didn’t know you needed in your life. Dana Hobson and Daniel Wolf have been a couple for 14 years and have been polyamorous for the last six years. The couple opens up and shares their experience as a polyamorous couple, with a lot of insight, humor (lots of it!) and honesty. Rebelling against monogamy and reveling in autonomy, Dana and the Wolf are pushing the envelope in all the right ways on social media platforms. They’re helping to pave the way for TikTok advocates of non-monogamy, helping change views with their transparency and authenticity. And, if that weren’t enough, they’re also a pop-duo band of the same name, Dana and the Wolf. How cool are they? Poly or not, you will want to check this talented couple out, you can find their adventures on Instagram as well.
Lindley Gentile is a therapist, mother and curator of The Modern Mom Movement. Gentile is calling out for other parents to reclaim their individuality and power. “Your kids need the woman behind the mom. Your partner wants to make out with the woman behind the wife. You deserve to be unshackled” is how she phrases it on her website, and she wants to show you just how to do that. Gentile’s content is filled with insight on libido, mom guilt, toxic positivity, and how to reclaim your sexual power and space. Stop feeling guilty for wanting more, and start following Lindley Gentile to help you on your path of Modern Motherhood.
Shan Boodram is an intimacy expert who has spent the past 15 years discussing sex, relationships and attachment on the Internet and in the media. You might be familiar with Shan Boodram already from her great podcast that we recently highlighted. However, if you don’t have time to enjoy full podcast episodes, follow Boodram on TikTok to get all of her sxuality and relationship wisdom in bite-size content. Boodram’s page is full of content to open your mind, and help normalize all things sex and mental health. From how often people are having sex, to women pushing men for sex or dealing with fears of divorce, this TikTok page can offer you information and comfort. Also, don’t forget to check out her YouTube and Instagram pages for more in-depth videos.
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Many men are taught from a young age that pushing down emotions is how they deal with them, which can lead to difficulties in relationships and life. Luckily Logan Cohen is here to help. Cohen is a trauma informed therapist, life coach and author. Cohen’s TikTok page is a great place for many men to start or continue their personal growth. Offering advice and tips around enabling versus empowering behaviors, the possible falsehood of “closure,” and how to protect your peace as a modern man.
With 10 years of sexual health and wellness education experience and as well as her work as a professional coach, Jocelyn Silva knows all the right ways to get your sex life where you want it to be. Her style is a combination of self-love, sex education, and guidance on how to intuitively tackle real life in order to enjoy your highest sexual purpose. Given TikTok’s censorship rules, Silva does a great job of talking about the ins and outs of sex (or “sekks” as she refers to it on her page) and intimacy without getting her content taken down. Silva’s Instagram page also has loads of helpful and fun anecdotes to explore her wisdom.
After 15 years as a divorce lawyer, Darling decided that rather than trying to make the journey of separation easier, she wanted to help couples stay together. This sexy genius is also an author of the national bestseller Love and Laughter: Sexy (Meaningful) Fun for Everyone, a radio host, couples coach and marriage coach, and overall advocate of healthy love. Darling’s TikTok is full of inspiring and empowering advice to help form deeper bonds with your partner, whether that means starting with self love or bonding through intimacy.
Whether you need to work on placing boundaries, or want to practice tantra, social media platforms have become the perfect place to dip our curious little toes into the pool of mental delights and self-growth. Social media can be a drain of our time, watching endless and sometimes mindless content. Why not replace that waste of time with something more beneficial? TikTok, Instagram and Twitter are the Pandora’s box of sex-positive information and empowering advice to help you on your journey, no matter what that journey is.