When exploring ethical non-monogamy for the first time, it is important to think about safe sex, just like any other relationship.
In a polyamorous relationship, safe sex guidelines are still important. On Reddit, a few people in ethically non-monogamous relationships shared advice for safe sex with all your partners.
You should read the whole article, but we rounded up a few of the best answers…
Make sure everybody shares the same definition of what qualifies as sex.
“We literally had to do a PSA with a previous group to the point of ‘Hey everyone, oral counts and can transmit disease.’ For the purposes of ‘safe sex’ if it can transmit an STI, it is ‘sex’.”
Make sure everyone in your relationship has regular tests for sexually transmitted diseases.
“I have completely open relationship with my fwb..he always uses protection and gets tested regularly as do I. We discuss all new meets. I think transparency and communication are key.”
Define clear & healthy boundaries for everyone in the relationship.
“Things my partner and I have brought up in past conversations that really helped are: birth control … safe words, soft limits, hard limits, and other boundaries”
Also, check out this amazing resource from Positive Juice, collecting advice for safer sex in any relationship.