Polyamory comes with lots of connotations and judgments, but most people don’t really understand what it means to be in a polyamorous relationship.
What We Need To Learn
The reality is that polyamory is not just a sexual free for all, it involves building emotional connections and sharing loving encounters with more than one person.
In the book, Many Love: A Memoir of Polyamory and Finding Love(s), Sophie Lucido Johnson explores how she came to be polyamorous.
Assumptions We Need To Reject
Johnson tackles some of the biggest wrong associations with polyamory.
- Polyamory is controversial.“Love is infinite. This shouldn’t even be controversial… but there is something very fixed in the modern mind-set about how relationships ought to look.”
- Polyamory isn’t only about sex. For many “polyamory is about building meaningful and lasting relationships with people inside and outside of their primary partnership.”
- Polyamory is a class privilege.“With the choice to be polyamorous comes the need to be flexible with one’s time. That isn’t always possible, particularly for people who aren’t paid a living wage.”
- Polyamory isn’t for everyone. “People are different and as such, they love differently.”
The Afterglow
“Polyamory is about shifting my definition of love to embrace the diversity of relationships in my life, and about allowing myself to prioritize all of those relationships,” she writes.