Hi! I’m sex and intimacy coach Zoe Kors. I’m stopping by Residence 11 to share with you some of the most common Q&A’s that come across my desk and social media. I am often asked, “Zoe how do I get out of my head and relax so I can have a much better experience of sex?” If that sounds like you, you’re not alone. Listen up. When we’re talking about getting out of our head and relaxing, we’re talking about becoming more present to what’s going on in the current moment.
We live in a culture that values sexuality. It is focused much more on sexuality than sensuality. And it is our senses that are going to help us become more present. The most powerful way out of your head is through your body. And the most powerful way through your body is using your five senses.
So what does this mean in terms of sex? It means that when you are engaging in physical intimacy and you notice the mental chatter starting.
When you notice that you’re nervous and you notice that you’re concerned about whatever it is you’re concerned about how you look, how you smell, what your partner is thinking, or their experience of you. Then, simply turn your awareness to the physical sensation of what’s happening in any given moment.
That should bring you more present and relaxed and ready to explore and enjoy the connection.
This is something that we can practice in our daily lives as well. We can build new neural pathways and train our bodies and our heads our minds to present themselves through the physical senses. Simply notice the beauty around you. Notice all the sensorial stimulation and that should bring you present.
Notice how that affects what’s going on around you and your attitude and perspective as
it’s happening.
That’s it for today! Thanks so much for tuning in to Residence 11. You can drop a comment or a question in the comments below or meet me over on Instagram at Zoe Kors.