As more people explore ethical nonmonogamy in their relationships, it raises an important question: when is the best time to tell a potential partner about your polyamorous relationship?
You can learn from others on Reddit, where people with more experience in this kind of relationship share advice for beginners.
Try these tips to change the conversation…
“I do it as soon as possible and I am direct.”
This advice earned lots of praise from readers. It’s important to be direct and not lead on your potential new partner.
Try a text message before the date.
This helps avoid awkward situations: “text before you actually meet up. That way if she’s not interested she doesn’t feel like you’re wasting her time”
Others prefer a face-to-face conversation
“I feel the face to face interaction is warranted. Seeing their reaction, listening to the tone of their voice when they respond, that’s meaningful information that you don’t get via text.”
Ease the awkwardness with a one-liner!
Another reader shared examples of “one-liners” that can naturally (and comically) work nonmonogamy into the conversation. Like this: “Well, actually I have three boyfriends. Yeah, I’m as surprised as anyone else that I ended up ditching monogamy.”
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Try these tips for your first Non-Monogamous Relationship.