It’s likely you text your special person every day. If those texts are mostly about what kind of bread to get at the grocery store or remembering the laundry, you’re not alone. Relationships have a lot of logistics and keeping the coupledom going takes time and dedication from both partners. But what if one of those texts could be less about the daily grind and more about grinding in a sexy way? Here are five tips and tricks to getting started sexting with your boo.
1: Start Slow
There’s no need to jump into the deep end when you get started sexting. Start off with some light flirting and playful banter to get the conversation going. A compliment is always good, so is a positive observation about what they wore to work, or how they wore their hair. Some examples could be:
“I noticed you wore the tie I gave you to work today. I’d love to loosen it up for you when you get home.”
Or
“Your hair looked so nice this morning. I love seeing your curls loose around your shoulders.”
These types of texts aren’t overtly sexual but show your partner that you noticed them, liked what you saw and are thinking about them. They are a simple flirtation that might open the door to something sexier.
If you were to reply to one of these texts, it would be easy to heighten the intensity ever so slightly by responding with sexual innuendo or even sharing a sensual photo that’s not overly sexual. A pic of the end of your tie wrapped tightly around your fingers, or one of your curls resting gently against your lower lip shows you liked the text and want to keep the intimacy going. By adding photos, the texts become physical, intimate and suggestive while remaining safe for work. And there’s plenty of room to build the sexual tension.
2: Set boundaries
Have a conversation with your partner about sexting styles and limits. Things may heat up quickly and you want to make sure boundaries have been established before desire takes over. Talk about what you’re both comfortable with and what you’re not. The goal is to avoid any uncomfortable surprises. Things to discuss:
- What devices will you use for sexting? Try to steer clear of using a device your employer has access to or one that syncs with devices other people (kids? coworkers?) access
- Establish that pics are intended for your partner’s eyes only
- Are there times of day that are off limits?
- Should pictures be deleted? Kept hidden?
- Using a dedicated intimacy platform can help with privacy and remind everyone to be careful when viewing. An app like Amorus can keep spicy texts and intimate photos away from other texting channels you may use for work or family
Setting basic ground rules can be part of the fun and build anticipation.
3: Be creative
Once boundaries are established, you can start to get your sexy groove on! Sexting is a great way to explore desires and fantasies, especially the ones that you want to keep only Fantasy. So don’t be afraid to let your imagination go wild! Sometimes just talking about something risqué is enough to get juices flowing. Here are some suggestions:
Describe sexy moments you’ve already shared
Remind them about that perfect spot he kisses you or that hot phrase she whispers in your ear. Describe how it felt the last time they kissed your body. This is flattering for your partner and provides positive reinforcement, making it easier to get the intimacy started.
Play games
A sexting app like Amorus has multiple games at the ready. Jigsaw turns a pic into a slide puzzle so that your partner has to do a little work to reveal that sexy image. A game like Fantasy Swipe uncovers shared desires in a fun, easy way that may inspire new fantasies.
Tell your partner about something sensual or physical you do alone
Hearing about your partner taking a hot bath with peppermint oil, donning satin pajamas or sweating through a tough workout creates space for fantasy and potential for super seductive pics.
Get new conversation starters
Chat Sparks is a tool in Amorus that has hundreds of fun prompts like, “How do you love to be flirted with?” or “If you had only $50 to fulfill a fantasy, how would you spend it?” You may be surprised by what you learn about the person you think you know so well!
4: Use protection
Sexting is a great way to explore sexuality in a relationship, but it’s important to remember that it can also put you at risk for cyberstalking or other online dangers. Make sure you use protection when sexting and keep issues like security and privacy in mind.
Check that your sexy chat platform has features to protect your messaging. Amorus encrypts your messages and never shares or mines your conversations. Pictures taken will never sync to a photo stream. The app also lets you unshare a text/photo from BOTH devices if things get too hot.
5: Have fun
Above all else, remember that sexting should be fun! Don’t take it too seriously and enjoy the moment with your partner. This is just for you two, so if it’s not a good time, don’t do it.
Keep in mind that we’re all different in what we like – some people love words, others respond more to pictures. Some people want to invent sexy stories and include role play. Others want a quick, enticing ping in the middle of the day. All of it is great! Sexy conversations can help build intimacy, strengthen the relationship, and build self-esteem while keeping the sexual energy alive and well. Why not give it a try?
Amorus is the intimacy app for couples, making sexy play easier through digital games and chat specifically focused on one-to-one pleasure with your known partner. Amorus is available free on Apple devices. Try Amorus, the app for spicy fun between known partners, by following this link.
